A small gift with a one liner in the Christmas card, but a huge reminder for me in this tough time of my life. "What we choose to endure regardless of circumstance, is who we become". I especially like the word "choose". I know this and have always known and been a strong believer in this concept. But anger and grief, and heartache blinded me to it. I am very strong of character and I know that the circumstances in my life have given me this, plus many other great qualities.
As I opened a DVD to watch this morning, a cutout of a quote fell out of the case. I cut it out years ago, but have no idea how it got in this movie case. I have no idea why it would even be in there. "It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. . .The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties. All history will convince you of this, and that wisdom and penetration are the fruit of experience, not the lessons of retirement and leisure. Great necessities call out great virtue".
I was also reminded by a very wise friend, that it is the blessings of my life that I need to keep in the forefront of my mind, and remember that it is the end result of my trials I need to look forward to. Be positive and know that in the end, things will be as they should be. Spend more time thinking of solutions, not the problems themselves.
This Christmas season our home has one empty chair at the table. A high chair to be specific. But I know that in the end, that chair will be full again, with giggles, spilt juice, and messy spaghetti sauce. I have to have faith in that. I have to look forward to that. I know that I have great kids with a great love and respect for each other and for myself. They recognize and appreciate the bonds we share. I need to continue to be strong for them, and in the end, our family will be whole again. My family is everything to me. They are my breath of everyday life, that keeps me going, keeps me smiling, keeps me laughing, and reminds me who I am and who I need to keep on being.
1 comment:
Hello Sifu,
A very very good post. We all need to take stock of our lives and the blessings that we are bestowed. It is to easy to get caught up in life and loose sight of these blessings. Continue to have faith and the good Lord above will bring your family back together sooner than you expect.
Mr. Repay
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